Okay, so that's a little combative of a post title. I understand that. But I'm having a "moon day" (if you are male and reading this post consider yourself warned not to think about that too deeply and maybe should just consider moving along...). Seriously, it hasn't been this bad in awhile. Maybe it's the new moon (not to be confused with New Moon). I just had no energy to do anything today. I made myself outline 1.5 sections of Elder law but that's as far as I got. I would love to say that I cleaned my apartment or did the laundry or ran useful errands or even paid bills today, but I can't. I wasn't nearly that productive.
Anyway, one thing that set me off this morning was the constant reminder that some people just don't like me as a blond and feel compelled to tell me it without me asking. I get it, it's different than how you met me (if you're a law school person) but really it's not different than most of my life. I would say the majority of my time here on this Earth has been as a blond—technically, all of it. I'm "dark blond" by nature and lighter, ashy blond by choice. I've told said people that it hurts my feelings and that I think it looks good (most of the time), but they still feel compelled to say stuff like, "I liked you much better as a brunette," and "are you going to go back to being brunette?" and even "I still don't recognize you as a blond". People, it's been over a year now! If this were a year ago, fine, I get it. It was shocking. But we're talking 13 months so get over it already and stop giving me unsolicited feedback about my hair color. It's really none of your business and besides, it's rude!
Here's a pictoral review:
This is what I looked like when everyone met me:
And this summer (2 years later):
My hair looks good in the photo above but now that I cut it off, I'm having trouble styling it on a daily basis. So it ends up looking like a hot mess, like this:
So, I don't know. My rant has lost a little steam at this point. Mostly due to E coming home. The thing is that in all of these photos my hair is colored. I like being blond. So, anyway, feel free to comment as to which you prefer. No, I won't freak out on you since it's solicited, but really, I don't think the blond is going anywhere anytime soon.
i can't remember what color your hair was when we met. I lean towards that light brown with blonde high lights? i dunno. Did you cut it off after we met or just before? haha. it was browner i guess.
ReplyDeletei like the blonde though. It's cheery and happy and fits your smile. so there you go. but then again it's your hair and since you have to look at you more than i do, my opinion doesn't really matter. E's probably does, but that's really it.
side note that's still slightly related: Budi and i discussed me going redder with my color. whatcha think?
I think you should do whatever makes you happy. Ok, well, I don't really quite think that, but you don't fall into the category of people where I think "um, you really should think about how the rest of us see you." These I reserve for people who force me to see parts of them that I would rather not--like their undies when I'm walking up hill on the Brandeis campus. That's just not how I want to start my day. But you don't fall into that category at all.
ReplyDeleteIt took me a bit to get used to you being blond, but I like it. And I like that it makes you happy and confident. You look good and like the way you look. I think you have all the bases covered!